A friend sent me a post today about irrational fear and the public shaming of free-thinkers (among other issues of the day). I feel very strongly about free-thinkers but that's another blog.
That post reminded me of one of my favorite teachers, Dr. Wayne Dyer, and how much I miss him on almost a daily basis. Thank god there are audio and video to help me remember how important his messages were to me.
"Becoming the observer (stepping back) you begin to live in process, trusting where our source is taking you. You begin to detach from the outcome. The detachment allows you to stop fighting and allows things to just come to you; you no longer make things happen but allow them to show up. The fight is gone!”
I actually have a book and a course that includes "walking into your own power". So what's this letting go and detaching idea all about? Do we have to choose? Which one is correct? It is so different from what we were taught in earlier years about setting goals, hustling, and just getting to the end result.
Is it really possible to let go of things, and still care?
is it truly possible to be detached, and still love?
Is it honestly possible to be an observer in our own lives?
Absolutely, it's possible! It has nothing to do with others, and everything to do with yourself...Y.O.U.
My take on this as a "woman of a certain age" is not the same as it was in my 20's or even my 40's. Of course, life experiences and learnings contribute to everyone's current life situation and our assessment of how our life is going.
And...in a world torn apart with opinions, judgment, bullying, and shaming I find this idea of detachment even more essential and significant.
Why is this important to you? Well, just the other day a customer was telling me about how they offered help and suggestions to someone via an email, or maybe it was a text. In a few days, the receiver's response was, "I didn't ask for help."
There you go. It's kind of like forgiving. You don't have to tell a person you are forgiving them...you do it because it frees you. By letting go of the outcome, you claim your intention of helping and supporting someone (maybe even yourself) and allow what's to be...to happen. You still care and you still love, but as an observer, you allow, instead of force or expect. That's a whole different feeling about Intention vs. Expectation. again, that's another blog.
My point is - the next time you are stressed, edgy, angry, or worried about an outcome you can't seem to solve, become an observer. In your mind, step into the background or high above the situation, and just observe. You might see things from a new perspective, as well as from another's point of view.
Instead of believing we can force or shame someone into doing something new, we can see that maybe they need and want to do it themselves, just to prove that they can do it themselves. Self-Reliance!
Instead of becoming angry that someone doesn't want to hear our good advice, we can send love and support and the intention of supporting what's in their best interest and then detach from the outcome. Let go. Hold space for them.
The fight is gone. How nice is that?
Whispers to Wisdom,